Saturday, September 4, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Relationship fanboyism
Oh btw, absolutely have no idea what picture to use in this post. And since people complain about the lack of pics, i'll just leave something unrelated this time.
Thing is often we know the real answers to our problems but we subconsciously refuse to admit it.
I'll ask you this, and you are to answer my questions, to yourself, honestly and without bias of emotions. Emotions drown out reasoning, and makes one make decisions that are not always right.
1. You say she was everything, u gave up so much for her, u say u saw her and immediately knew she was the one. How? And no, telling me "you just know" or any sentence with the words "feel" or anything else to convey feelings is not the answer. Because feelings are biased like I said earlier. I doubt you can give me a satisfactory answer. What is a satisfactory answer? Imagine your baby sister tells u she likes this guy. And u want to know why.
This is an example of what's been happening to u.
Imagine this guy, who comes to u and says "dude why are u using that phone. Change to iPhone! iPhone fucking rocks! It does it's the best phone eveeeeeerrrrr"
And u ask him why is it the best phone ever. And he can't give u the answer other than "dude it just issssss"
Fucking stupid retarded brainless fanboy.
Compare him to yourself. See the problem?
Think about it before reading on, and read what I said a few times......
Thing is a relationship doesn't start out as THE relationship. A relationship and date is to evaluate your partner to figure out if she's the one.
When you skip the "trial period" and evaluate your choice (at the risk of making the girl sound like an object) and straight away decide she's the best, you become an annoying, "deaf" fanboy. No advice is going to get through to you, no flaw is going to be noticed, while every simple action will seem like a miracle. You become biased.
And for you it has had disastrous results! For in your actions you've screwed up your own ability to appeal and support your partner! Even if she is the one that u find to your liking in the end, she would find it difficult to find u to be the one for her. And if she does, well, she's a "fanboy" too. And two fools in love make for the worst, shortest realtionship.
I would recommend reading my blog posts "difference between love and relationships" and "how to get over a relationship". Read it and reread it.
It's not too late. It never is. Believe me, because I know people who have screwed up worse than u but make it through and find love.
Remember, while love is about emotions, never let emotions dictate your decisions. It is never rational. And irrational decisions are random, and fail as often as they succeed. They key is using emotions to complement your rational decisions
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Iphone vs Windows Mobile : True review Part 2
Iphone 3GS : 4/10
Touch Pro 2 : 9/10
Windows Mobile (FUTURE): 3/10
(heavy realiance on emulators such as FPSECE, and ports)
But i AM reducing its rating by TWO for this. Get this, there is NO easy way to set your own customised ringtone for Iphone! What. The. FUCK! Yes its so bad i'm going to swear! With windows mobile you can easily crop songs u have with MP3 trimmer and have it as a ringtone within minutes. No can do on iphone, you have to actually PAY for some crappy cropped songs from iTunes! To be able to set your own ringtone is such a hassle and difficult even I gave up on it!
Windows Mobile: 9/10
Thats it for now. Signing off,
Baronic
Sunday, February 28, 2010
No time to update. The end?
Saturday, December 26, 2009
New freewares! Xtrakt and Experiment 13, WVGA resolution only!
The goal of the game is to guide the character, Roy Tate, through a number of levels to help him get home. To accomplish this, you must obtain all the energy spheres found on each stage, which will give you access to a portal. You can jump and move around by pressing arrows on the screen. Other on-screen arrows will rotate the screen, so you can reach different areas of the world. Collect all spheres throughout the game and you win!
Note: because this game was intended for the Xperia X2, some features, like the accelerometer option, may not work correctly on some devices. The game is certainly playable though.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Ask Brother Baronic 1
I've decided that letters/emails received from now on, will go under the heading "Ask Brother Baronic" for reference purposes.
QUESTION:
hello there. I'm Rogue, 23, and I've read your post about relationships. I also have a problem with my boyfriend. My bf is only 21 yrs old. When I met him, he was actually single for 3 years because he was hurt in his past. It was actually his first love, so memories left a wound in him. He gave all his attentions and affection to this girl that I wish I was getting. But they say it was his past and I should forget about it because he said he already did too. The thing is, he said he's changed because of what happened. Now, I'm the one whose suffering, I think. I envy his ex because like I said he gave that attention that I wish I am getting. The bottom line is, I'm the one whose bothered with his past and getting emotional with it. So we always fight over little things. Then, another issue is that, he looks at every pretty girls around even I am there. He even had a crush in one of my officemates here. He knows that I have this jealousy thing and he always tease me about his girl crushes or that pretty chick he sae, he sometimes do it intentionally to make me jealous. But I he loves me, I can feel it, it's just that I expect too much from him coz I want him to give me that kind of love he gave to his ex. But he said, it will be impossible, "he's changed".
Now, we're living in same house and we work in the same office and one department which means we're always together, which is good for me. But next year, he's going to pursue his dreams, finished school and work abroad. That makes everything worse for me. He told me about his plans, he said though I want to focus on my studies, I don't want to break up. But I'm being emotional again and overreacted, thinking of negative things, what if he found someone there or this or that. What if he neglected me completely etc. So we fight and fight about the issue, until one day, I decided to break up with him, I'm the one who initiated and he finished it. I thought it was the end. Then, I realized my faults, apologize to him and beg him to come back. We talked and make another solution again. Evrything was fine. But then, the other day, my officemate told me, he saw my bf searching his crush' name on FB. I confronted my bf, we fight, I pack up and he actually helped me carry my bag. But then, I realized again my fault and apology and promised not to do it again.
But, he seemed hesitant about everything now, he's afraid that it might happen again and he's tired of it. He said he wants to be alone, besides he's going to work abroad after studying and leave me here.:( He said he doesn't want me to get hurt again, he said he knows his faults and he said sorry to me. What bothers me when he works abroad is the thing he said, that he can't promise me to be faithful there, since temptations are everywhere. That's why I am so worried. I am bothered of the things he's saying to me, that he can't promise to be faithful...even at school. He said he was just saying the possibilites for me to prepared, he wants to see what will I do if this or that happen. He said he was disspointed because I easily overreact even when he's joking about girls, what if the bigger issues? how will I handle those? Sometimes, I can't understand him. He's tired of me now..I'm worried..I love him so much..he knows that too. Sometimes, I even think he wants to break up with me but can't do it because of pity. He knows how it feel to get hurt and he doesn't want to happen that to me. I don't know him anymore...what should I do?
Thanx!
Rogue.
ANSWER:
Is he your first relationship? I (and probably everyone else in the world) can attest to the fact the first serious relationship is bound to be something different and special. Special, in not necessarily the best of ways. For one thing we would young, we would be naive regarding our views on what our relationship should be like. Our only reference would be dopey soap operas depicting how love can conquer any obstacles no matter what. As we grow up, as we get involved, this view changes and reality sets in. No matter how much we "love" each other things are never going to work out if we cannot compromise and we both have several strong views that differ. So yes, a first serious relationship may start out in a typical soap opera fashion but it soon fade away. So dont live a relationship based on the big screen expecting a fully insanely all about you devoted little man puppy. I'm all for romanticism, but what you expect from him right now is a lil on the extreme side, and too heavily influenced by the big screen. And you can't expect him to behave exactly the same as when in the first. Its probably in some ways better for you too. The only thing thats contant in this universe is change.
"Checking girls out"
While i cannot vouch for his fidelity, i think the both of you, and i mean the BOTH of you should read the blog post i wrote regarding the differences between relationships and crushes. He should read it so he doesnt mistake a physical attraction or fetish as love. And you should read it because if you've read it, he's read it, and you both agree with it, then you've really got nothing to worry about. Its just a crush.
Men are genetically inclined to be attracted to more than one person, even more so than females. Females look for a mate, are generally more selective, and tends to stick with em because females only have one "egg" at any one time. Men meanwhile have a genetic impulse to spread their seeds as much as possible in order for evolution to carry on his legacy. This is of course highly general and does not apply to EVERYONE.
That said of course, it doesnt mean he has a right to hump every single moving thing. We are more than just the basest of animals. We can think, and more importantly we have emotional attachments that affects our thinking as well. It is just an explaination for his attraction towards other girls.
Its just a crush. He's just checking them out. And at the risk of advocating on his behalf, it does not mean he loves them. The most important thing is knowing the difference between attraction and love. (again the both of you should read my entry on the difference between love and crushes).
It is very good that he's letting you know all this. The chances of him cheating on is much more slim if he actually takes the decision to let you know about it than keeping quiet about it. If he lets off his pent up attraction feelings on you, he doesnt let it eat away at him and make him do something stupid. You should laugh with him, encourage him to open up, and if u want give a friendly reminder that you hope he knows that its just a silly crush and he knows who he loves and who loves him too. Dont discourage him from openning up to you.
Even if he checks her out on facebook, it would sorta depend. True. It seems a lil alarming. Maybe he's just entertaining his lil attraction a bit more. Maybe its something worse. Again it would depend on his ability to differentiate between love and crushes. But i do not think exploding as you did solved anything. Perhaps it would have been better to raise your concerns by asking him if you should be worried, tell him his actions are beginning to make you feel insecure.
But bear in mind it won't change his nature. Just he'll probably be more discreet about it. It wont change that he finds her attractive.
Regarding your other insecurities and worries, i don't know what you're referring to, but fighting about it doesnt resolve the matter. Neither does swallowing what you feel and apologising about it. You're merely sweeping the dust underneath the rub. As the dust pile grows you're going to have to deal with it sooner or later.
But he's leaving already. Next year. A long distance relationship requires a good strong foundation that results in trust. You have neither, due to lack of resolution of problems, and his self admittance that he may not be loyal. It brings into question his seriousness about the current relationship. I would say yes, you've already lost him, just have not gone through the formalities yet. You dont have the sufficient time you need to resolve the issues and build trust.
Perhaps it would be better to give yourself some closure by calling it off. You could still remain friends and you can keep your option open, perhaps you'll get back together again. But the current situation, i do not think its worth foreswearing how you'll wait for him. The current relationship's not worth it. And perhaps if you should evaluate if he's worth it. Because maybe he's just not ready for the type of commitment you're looking for, judging by his stand on long distance relationships. You're looking for love straight from the movies. He's looking for companionship. You want the warm feeling of being loved, while the thrill of attraction seems to still really affect him.
If you want to save the relationship, trust and communication is the key. If it cannot be done, perhaps the both of you are just not the right combination for each other. Or maybe its just a little too late, since he's already going overseas soon.Thursday, November 19, 2009
WARCRAFT 2 (WVGA version, totally smooth and non choppy)
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